Self-Help Book

 

1. The Subtitle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

Don't believe you know anything with certainty, for it keeps you from improving.A common idea in Stoicism is to focus only on the things you can control.Here's where Mark makes an interesting remark: Only choose to have values you can control.Values you don't control are bad, because they'll be a constant source of unnecessary suffering in your life.Only you know how honest you are, but no one else needs to.Sure, you can be nice and friendly to everyone, but you can't control other peoples' opinions.Popularity isn't the best value to focus on and you could try replacing it with one more controllable, such as kindness.Imagine you could choose between two modes of moving through the world: one in which you think everything you know is 100% true and one in which you think nothing you know is 100% true.While there's some middle ground to be found here, rejecting the idea that you know anything for sure is a great base to start learning from.Here's an uncomfortable, but important reminder: You're going to die one day.

2. Everything is Fu*ked

In Everything is Fucked, Mark Manson focuses on the seemingly endless calamities that take place in the world around us. By drawing inspiration from the mountain of psychological research and the eternal wisdom of legendary philosophers like Plato and Nietzsche, he carefully dissects politics and religion. He also analyses the uncomfortable connection between them. Read this book and learn more about his findings on the same.

Manson has some tough words for people obsessed with comfort, ease, life hacks and happiness, but his advice is constructive and meant to keep us focused on the here, the now, and the things that really matter.Most people want the same things, like good food and a roof over their heads.With these laws governing us, you can see how even the most hopeful among us can end up unable to change or stuck believing that we deserve bad things.Just like any other kind of belief, for hope to be "Good," something else must be seen as "Bad." A hopeful person, after all, is essentially saying, "I'm unhappy with how things are now and I hope they change." So while it might feel like hope gives things more meaning, it's really just creating more unhappiness and conflict! Or, as the author puts it, "Everything is fucked because of hope." This is where Nietzsche asked us to look beyond the good and evil espoused by any belief system.Even if you're not familiar with the eighteenth-century philosopher Immanuel Kant, you're probably familiar with some of the things he inspired.Yes, Kant is basically saying "Don't be an asshole." Kant's formula for humanity fits nicely with Nietzsche's amor fati, because it asks people not to do things simply in the hope that their behavior will lead to a favorable outcome.Even if, hypothetically, we were able to remove every unpleasant thing from our lives, we wouldn't stop seeing problems - we'd only become more sensitive to smaller things that never bothered us before.As the number of blue dots and threatening expressions decreased, people didn't stop seeing them; they just moved the line for what qualified as "Blue" or "Threatening" and convinced themselves that those things were still appearing.True freedom comes from reducing things in your life, like when you delete a social media account to free up your time and attention.So if there's one thing you should hope for, it's that we don't blow ourselves up before we can make the changes that give us the chance to be the best versions of ourselves.

3. Who Moved My Cheese

Who Moved My Cheese?' is a simple parable that reveals profound truths. It is an amusing and enlightening story of four characters who live in a maze and look for cheese to nourish them and make them happy. Cheese is a metaphor for what you want to have in life - whether it is a good job, a loving relationship, money or a possession, health or spiritual peace of mind. And the maze is where you look for what you want - the organisation you work in, on the family or community you live in. This profound book from bestselling author, Spencer Johnson will show you how to- Anticipate change; adapt to change quickly; enjoy change; be ready to change quickly again and again. Discover the secret for yourself and learn how to deal with change, so that you suffer from less stress and enjoy more success in your work and in life.

Not all change is good or even necessary, but in a world of constant change it is our advantage to learn how to adapt and enjoy something better Started in the maze looking for their own special cheese.

Maze was a labyrinth of corridors and chambers, some containing delicious cheese.There were also dark alleys leading nowhere One day they found great cheese at cheese station C. Hem and Haw started getting comfortable waking later, sleeping in and putting there boots up.Hem and Haw soon regarded the cheese as their cheese, as if they were entitled to it.Sniff and Scurry noticed the cheese was starting to not taste as good and the supply was going to dwindle in time.Hem and Haw one day had not noticed the changes in cheese, one day they got back to C and yelled "What no cheese! Who moved my cheese? It's not fair!" One day Haw wanted to move on, but Hem said 'why should we change? We are special, we are entitled to these benefits. Over analyzed the cheese not moving They stayed later, worked harder, banged holes through the walls but still no cheese.Why didn't I get up and move with the cheese sooner? Haw thought what would you do if you weren't afraid? He realized it was the fear that froze himself away from the action."Smell the cheese often so you know when it's getting old" "Haw realized when you change what you believe you change what you do" Haw learned from Sniff and Scurry to not over complicate things.